Comparing yourself to others

Comparing yourself and your life to others and their lives is a great way to steal your happiness!
One very common and destructive daily habit is to constantly compare your life to other people and their lives. You compare cars, houses, jobs, clothes, money, relationships, social popularity and everything! Then your self-esteem is so low and you create a lot of negative feelings about yourself and even negative feelings about others.
How to overcome this habit is to replace that destructive habit with two better habits:

• Compare yourself to yourself. Instead of comparing yourself to other people create the habit of comparing yourself to yourself. See how much you have grown, what you have achieved and what progress you have made towards your goals. This habit has the benefit of creating gratitude, appreciation and kindness towards yourself as you observe how far you have come, the obstacles you have overcome, and the good stuff you have done. You can feel good about yourself without having to think less of other people.
• Be kind. You can say such negative things to yourself that you would never tolerate being said to anyone, so stop yourself from that internal bully, and just be nice! Also realize, as you are more kind to other people and help them, it helps you to be more kind to yourself. So focus on and appreciate the positive things in yourself and in the people around you. You can start by listing of the things you don't like about yourself and then write the opposite or things you do like about yourself. Then throw away the negative list and read that new positive list every day! 

And remember: stop comparing! No matter what you do you can pretty much always find someone else in the world that has more than you or are better than you at something. But you are needed and valued just the way you are!